We got Picasso’s official Evaluation Report in the mail today. Especially after the team meeting, the report contains nothing new. Still, it is a shock to the system to see other people put into writing what I have known about my 4 year old for the last few centuries.
Now, if something obviously physical was the problem — say, walking, for example — I would not be conflicted about this report. But his [new] problems are in the social/emotional/behavior area. He does not socialize well. Inattention and distractibility cause problems with him functioning in the classroom. (Yes I know, if he doesn’t have ADHD, he has something that shares many of the same symptoms, even if it is only sleep apnea.)
How to deal with this is a puzzle. I’m pretty sure they can teach children social skills, and he needs that. But how do you teach a child how to pay attention? How do you get his *!%#* attention to teach him anything?
And of course, the guilt comes into play. How can you be a modern parent without heaps of guilt? I am trying not to think that, if I had been a better parent, he would be able to socialize better with his peers. If I got down on the floor and played with him more, he would have better play skills. (Who knew that play was even a skill?) If I had just …
And my thoughts are interrupted with a Picasso, stop tormenting the cat. Picasso. PICASSO!!! [walk over there and remove the cat, wondering how to get this child to hear my voice] Why don’t we play a game to work on your play skills. No, Candyland is not all about the monkeys. 5 minutes later he’s still focused on the gumdrop forest and doesn’t even notice there are cards. How many times have we played this game?
I guess maybe ADHD is hereditary.